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Stalking -
How to Protect Yourself |
I. Victim Information
Definition:
Penal Code 646.9 (1) A person who willfully, maliciously,
and repeatedly follows or harasses another person and makes
a credible threat with the intent to place that person in
reasonable fear for his or her safety, or the safety of his
or her immediate family, is guilty of the crime of stalking.
Stalking can emerge at the time of termination of relationships.
Individuals have been victimized by persistent pursuit after
brief business contacts. Stalking of complete strangers also
occurs. Remember, it is NOT the fault of the victim.
What to Do About Stalkers:
State your decision directly and clearly when you do not
want to have further contact with a pursuer.
Do not state reasons or negotiate. Then stop all contact
and communication with that person.
Do not respond to escalation or have a person who is not
a police officer intervene for you.
Contact the police if problems occur. Carefully evaluate
the stalker's communications and actions. Design a plan that
minimizes encounters and maximizes safety.
Safety Strategies:
1. Call the police and file a crime report. When making a
subsequent report, tell the officer of the prior reports.
2. Ask the officer for an Emergency Protective Order if you
are in immediate danger. Restraining orders may serve to incite
the perpetrator. Be prepared to seek temporary safety at a
shelter or with others if you are in imminent danger.
3. Implement preventive measures such as installing deadbolt
locks and outside lighting. Very routes taken. Stay in public
areas, and inform trusted neighbors regarding the situation.
4. Assist the police by keeping a log of current and past
events. Keep phone messages tapes and items sent in the mail.
5. As a last resort, change jobs and move to a new location.
Consult with the police department about ways to maintain
privacy of information that could be used to locate you.
II. Safety Tips for Victims of Stalkers
Residence Security:
1. Be alert for any suspicious person
2. Positively identify callers before opening doors. Install
a wide angle viewer in all primary doors.
3. Install a porch light at a height which would discourage
removal.
4. Install deadbolts on all outside doors. If you cannot account
for all keys, change door locks. Secure spare keys. Place
a dowel in sliding glass doors and all sliding windows.
5. Keep garage doors locked at all times. Use an electric
garage door opener.
6. Install adequate outside lighting.
7. Trim shrubbery. Install locks on fence gates.
8. Keep fuse box locked. Have battery lanterns in residence.
9. Install a loud exterior alarm bell that can be manually
activated in more than one location.
10. Maintain an unlisted phone number. Alert household members
to any unusual and/or wrong number calls. If such activity
continues notify the local law enforcement agency.
11. Any written or phone threat should be treated as legitimate
and must be checked out. Notify the appropriate law enforcement
agency.
12. All adult members of the household should be trained in
the use of any firearms kept for protection. It should be
stored out of reach of children.
13. Household staff should have a security check prior to
employment and should be thoroughly briefed on security precautions.
Strictly enforce a policy of the staff not discussing family
matters or movement with anyone.
14. Be alert for any unusual packages, boxes, or devices on
the premises. Do not disturb such objects.
15. Maintain all-purpose fire extinguishers in the residence
and the garage. Install a smoke detector system.
16. Tape emergency numbers on all phones.
17. When away from the residence for an evening, place lights
and radio on a timer. For extended absences, arrange to have
deliveries suspended.
18. Intruders will attempt to enter unlocked doors or windows
without causing a disturbance. Keep all doors and windows
locked.
19. Prepare an evacuation plan. Brief household members on
plan procedures. Provide ladders or rope for two-story residences.
20. A family dog is one of the least expensive but most effective
alarm systems.
21. Know the whereabouts of all family members at all times.
Children should be accompanied to school or bus stops.
22. Routes taken and time spent walking should be varied.
23. Require identification of all repair and sales people
prior to permitting entry into residence.
24. Always park in a secured garage if available.
25. Inform trusted neighbors of any anticipated extended vacations,
business trips, etc.
26. During vacations, etc,. have neighbors pick up mail and
newspapers.
27. If residing in an apartment with a on-site manager, provide
the manager with a picture of the suspect. If in a secured
condominium, provide information to the doorman or valet.
Office Security:
1. Central reception should handle visitors and packages.
2. Office staff should be alert for suspicious people, parcels,
and packages that do not belong in the area.
3. Establish key and lock control. If keys possessed by terminated
employees are not retrieved, change the locks.
4. Park in secured areas if at all possible.
5. Have your name removed from any reserved parking areas.
6. If there is an on-site security director, make him/her
aware of the situation. Provide him/her with suspect information.
7. Have secretary or co-worker screen calls if necessary.
8. Have secretary or security personnel screen all incoming
mail (personal) or fan letters.
9. Be alert to anyone possibly following you from work.
10. Do not accept any package unless you personally ordered
an item.
Personal Security:
1. Remove home address on personal checks and business cards.
2. Place real property in a trust, and list utilities under
the name of the trust.
3. Utilize a private mail box service to receive all personal
mail.
4. File for confidential voter status of register to vote
utilizing Mail Box address.
5. Destroy discarded mail.
6. Phone lines can be installed in a location other than the
person's residence and call forwarded to the residence.
7. Place residence rental agreements in another person's name.
8. The person's name should not appear on service or delivery
orders to the residence.
9. Do not obtain a mail box with the United States Post Office.
10. Mail Box address now becomes the person's official address
on all records and in all rolodexes. It may be necessary or
more convenient to list the mail box as "Suite 123"
or "Apartment #123" rather than "Box 123".
11. File a change of address card with the Post Office giving
the mail box address as the person's new address. Send postcards
(rather than U.S. Post Change of Address Cards) to friends,
businesses, etc, giving the mail box address and requesting
that they remove the old address from their files and rolodexes.
12. All current creditors should be given a change of address
card to the mail box address. (Some credit reporting agencies
will remove past addresses from credit histories if a request
is made. We recommend this be done.)
13. File a change of address with the DMV to reflect the person's
new mail box address. Get a new driver's license with the
new address on it.
Vehicle Security:
1. Park vehicles in well-lit areas. Do not patronize parking
lots where car doors must be left unlocked and keys surrendered;
otherwise surrender only the ignition key. Allow items to
be placed in or removed from the trunk only in your presence.
2. When parked in the residence garage, turn the garage light
on and lock the vehicle and garage door.
3. Equip the gas tank with a locking gas cap. The hood locking
device must be controlled from inside the vehicle.
4. Visually check the front and rear passenger compartments
before entering the vehicle.
5. Select a reliable service station for vehicle service.
6. Keep doors locked while vehicle is in use.
7. Be alert for vehicles that appear to be following you.
8. When traveling by vehicle, plan ahead. Know the locations
of police stations, fire departments, or busy shopping centers.
Sound the horn to attract attention.
9. Do not stop to assist stranded motorists. Use cell phones
to call for assistance.
Excerpted from a 1997 presentation by Bonnie Hammell
III. Stalking Incident Log
If you are being stalked you need to keep a log of each and
every incident. This kind of documentation will assist law
enforcement in their investigation and prosecution of the
stalker. To create a incident log sheet, start by putting
the name of the person being stalked and the name of the suspect
at the top of a page. Then create six columns with the following
headings:
1 |
2 |
3 |
4 |
5 |
6 |
|
Description
of Incident |
Witnesses?
Name:
Address:
Phone:
|
Call
911
Yes / No |
Physical
Evidence? |
Police Agency:
Officer Name:
Report Number |
Keep detailed records and make a copy for your files.
“Complied from excerpts of a 1997 presentation given by Bonnie Hammell and distributed in print by the San Diego YWCA.” |